By Jane Stratton
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August 10, 2020
In recent weeks, there has been much media attention surrounding parents’ and teachers’ views regarding schools reopening; very mixed and often, conflicting thoughts have been expressed. Unfortunately, however, I am yet to see much coverage of pupils’ feelings about returning to school and I have seen even less focus on those with additional support needs (ASN). With this in mind, I have spent the last few days speaking to young learners with ASN, and their parents, in order to offer some honest representation. They have been eager to pass on their feelings about Scottish schools starting back full-time. There is a considerable amount of concern amongst parents and the feelings of young people can be summarised as anxiety and fear (or even terror) for the majority. One young man (16) described the excruciating reality of attending a mainstream school. His daily life prior to lockdown consisted of extreme masking, spending years covering up his challenges in order to be accepted by peers and teachers. He has endured regular punishment, bullying and humiliation since starting school at 4 years old; similar to many of the youngsters with whom I have spoken. I simply cannot begin to imagine the anxiety felt throughout their school years. In short, this young man has put himself under intolerable pressure conforming to ‘neurotypical’ school life, resulting in school being likened to a “ prison sentence ” . He told me that for the last four months he has been able to be his true self and now doesn’t feel able wear the mask again. “If I went back to school as the real me, I’d get into trouble, be bullied and would be made to feel like a freak. I can’t go back to hiding it anymore though.” For this reason, he will not be returning to school, choosing instead to continue his education at home, with online tutors . I can’t help but be sad for the school; this is an exceptional youngster who has so much to offer a school community if he could just be accepted as he is. For another family, lockdown has been tough and the son (12), who has autism, has struggled to engage with schoolwork despite his anxiety levels thankfully being vastly reduced. The start of term was always going to be tough but part-time attendance with blended learning sounded manageable. Now however, with plans changed to full-time education, things have escalated at home. He has refused to try on new school shoes, school uniform and states that he will not be returning. When asked why, he is unable to put his feelings into words, but his mum was able to tell me that his anger and anxiety have “ramped up” resulting in aggressive behaviour which is impacting the whole family. This is likely to be a very tough time for him and the probability is that he will be unable to attend school on a full-time basis, if at all. A young girl (9), relieved to let me know her feelings, described enjoying home-learning. She has dyslexia and ADHD along with sensory differences. She expressed how difficult school is for her and that she is, “really, really, really scared” about returning. She likes her friends but seeing them, “won’t make up for how bad things will be” for her. At home, she can wear her own clothes and take as long as she needs to finish her work. Her mum said that she has produced more work at home than she has done in her 5 years at school put together! She is now loving reading about things that interest her and because she is much more relaxed, she has been able to see that she is, “actually pretty clever!” When talking about learning at home, she smiled and became animated, using hand gestures to add to her description. Her demeaner drastically changed as soon as she started talking about school; she sank into her chair and held her head in her hands, picking at the skin on her cheeks. As her body language changed and her voice weakened to a whisper, it made for emotional listening. How can we ensure these young learners are heard? In total, I have spoken to a dozen children (and families) with a variety of different additional support needs. Without exception, the overriding emotion displayed when talking about returning to full-time, mainstream school, was extreme anxiety and for more than half, measurable distress. None felt understood at school and all described hiding the majority of their challenges and struggles from peers and teachers. Having discovered an ability to learn and succeed in ways they had thought impossible, they are now “scared” , “frightened” and “panicky ” about going back into an environment that “does so much harm”. In all honesty, as the mum of three children with significant additional support needs, much of what these fabulous young pupils described was no surprise to me. However, what was shocking was the parents’ description of a rapid onset of extreme anxiety when the Scottish Government announced their plan for full-time schooling . It is clear that this anxiety is real, severe and exhausting for children and parents alike. This is not a ‘natural nervousness’ that many may feel returning to school after summer. Many parents are seriously contemplating not sending their ASN children back to school. One mother told me that she was being asked to send her son “back into the lion pit” . Parents are truly worried, and with just cause. They have now seen their children thrive with a different type of schooling; rather than their children being incapable of learning, they have seen that by changing the environment, these youngsters have been able to flourish, both academically and more importantly, emotionally. I must acknowledge that there may be other children who have had different experiences during lockdown, and for them, school may be a sanctuary. I suspect however, that the stories I have heard while researching for this blog, are very common. Please let’s give these amazing youngsters the understanding, compassion and encouragement they need and help them make the transition back to a school life that will accept them as they are.